The Church Goer/Recovering Atheist: Is he really a church goer? Or is he just there to pick up women? Yes sis some men just attend church because they know its the best place to find a woman that is seeking to be found. They feed you the regular lines of “I attend service”, “I’m a Christian”, “I’m struggling with my walk with God” etc just to get close and take advantage-am I hearing an “Amen?”. Or maybe they try to convince you they struggle with “sexual sin” and “need your help.” Next thing you know you’re struggling with it too-mistake? I don’t think so.

Verdict: Time Waster

Goal: Take advantage of your relationship with God and use it against you for sex, companionship and then leave when he’s tired

The Forever Available: This kind of man may not have been attractive to you at first. In fact he’s not your type (Curious to learn more about how your type can help or hinder you in choosing the right man? Then sign up here). He’s not even the kind of man you want to marry. But guess what? You’re starting to fall for him because “he’s nice”. Yes I said it with air quotes because usually that won’t be enough but you’re starting to like his character. And he’s starting to notice too. So this means he starts to do what? You guessed it: take advantage. He wants to be there for you but not there for you as in he doesn’t want to date you but wants to act like you’re dating. For this one its enough that you’re around-he doesn’t want more and he doesn’t want less. Confusing right? I know! Yes you know this man-the one that came to your mind right now? That’s him!

Verdict: Time Waster

Goal: Use you for the illusion of a relationship but its actually a situationship

The Friend With Benefits: This one is sleek. He’s a friend but he’s not just a friend: he’s a friend with benefits. He doesn’t want the title. He likes to go under the guise of “let’s be friends first” and then “see how it goes”. Does that sound familiar? I’m sure it does. He likes to make you believe that at some point he will be ready to commit. But right now he just wants to be friends to “get to know you better”. Sis he doesn’t want to get to know you better-he wants to get to know your body better that’s true-but not you. And what happens here is you catch feelings-you start to believe its okay to be “just friends” for now until he introduces you to his girlfriend/his wife *shocker* you didn’t know he was married-but he is-or even engaged.

Verdict: Time Waster

Goal: Use you for his own amusement until he gets bored

The Touch And Go: I’ll be talking to the ladies in my course about this some more. You can join the wait list for my course here. This one is interesting because he likes to come in and out of your life at will. The Professional Ghoster is another way I describe him-in fact we talk all about ghosting in my signature course on losing the wrong man in 30 days-sign up here. The touch and go comes and goes lol yes I know I just couldn’t help myself. This man likes to drop a “hello” or the occasional “hi” and then wait to see if you will respond and then what does he do? Drops off the face of the Earth for another 2-3 days slowly becoming 2-3 months, doesn’t return your messages/calls and may be gone longer if you allow him stick around hoping he would change-he won’t by the way. But that’s how he likes to use you.

Verdict: Time Waster

Goal: Likes to know you’re still available to him when he wants to talk to you

Always Here-Never Clear: That’s what I call this one. You’ll learn more of my slangs in my course where I show you my secrets to recognize these men quickly-you haven’t signed up yet? Click here. Always here- never clear is the guy that comes with the intention of wanting to date you-or so he claims-but never really does date you. He claims he’s ready for marriage but doesn’t even want to discuss being in a relationship. He claims he likes you and cares about you but doesn’t want to spend time with you or define the relationship. He wants to discuss settling down, having kids, a wedding date-but he “needs more time” to get ready to date you-sometimes he needs to “fast and pray” for as long as possible.

Verdict: Time Waster

Goal: Likes the idea of settling down but isn’t actually ready to -so he uses you for the illusion of being settled when in fact he’s actually really confused

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