HOW TO FIND YOUR STRENGTH

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Today I will be giving 3 simple tips on finding your strength!

1.        Shift your Perspective: Usually when we are confronted with challenges-it is very tempting to sit down and wallow in self pity-but this is a very important and critical stage where you can learn to discover yourself. Shift your perspective of the situation. Instead of thinking why did this happen? Start to meditate instead on what can I learn from this situation? You will be surprised how shifting your perspective of the situation adjusts your attitude to the pain and in the process you discover strength you never even knew you had

2.        Adjust Your Perception: This provides a path to investigating your desires. When we go through a tumultuous situation, we realize we have qualities we never knew we possessed. And this is usually the reason people gravitate either forwards or backwards when faced with tragedy or trials. Its because you have two choices: either you give into the pain and your negativity or you fight for your positivity. And you may ask: how do you do this? well after shifting your perspective from how you perceive the situation, it will also address how you process your intuition. You will notice that we have a fight or flight instinct and if you choose to fight-you give birth to a desire to move forward instead of backwards. This will lead you along the path that is a journey to self discovery-you will learn new ways to deal with pain and this builds your muscle of strength.

 
3.        Change Direction: This leads to my final point: you will then need to change your direction-and what this means is you will have to make sacrifices-as you realize there were and may still be blockages to your happiness in your relationships. You have to make a choice-some people cannot follow you forward. And so you will have to leave them behind because you are facing a new direction. The reason this produces strength is that it requires persistence. It requires persistence and perseverance to say no to certain relationships that you once said yes, it would require determination and dedication to refuse to listen to your heart but instead follow your head. And this will give you the strength you will need as you move forward to access and evaluate those you can allow within your circle of trust, and those that you should keep away from.

These are 3 simple steps guys to finding your strength. Remember, these steps are broad strategies that can be tailored to suit your present challenges. So you have to decide firstly: are you ready to move forward? Then apply the steps outlined into your daily situations.
Leave your comments below and let me know: what have been the challenges for you in building your strength?

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PROSE: WELL WISHERS OR DECEIVERS?

 Relationships provide a powerful avenue to one’s destiny. It is important to evaluate each and every one carefully. Who do you allow within your circle of trust? Have they broken their words before? Have you been stabbed by their repeated attacks on your trust? Then why are they still around you-what are they for?
You need to understand that in order to move forward from your past-some baggage must stay behind. You are no longer the man you once were-neither are you the woman who once allowed deceitful whispers sweep over her. You are different-you learned from Ronke’s deceit that you do not need everyone to follow you on your journey. You learned from Dare’s lips that lies have a sweet smell tainted with deceit.
There is treasure within each trash heap of burnt trust-so why are you so concentrated on the burn? Can you not see you have learned when to keep silent and when to speak? Have you forgotten so readily how treacherous man is? Or do you once more want to be another person’s mode of entertainment through the avenue of deceit?
Stop exposing yourself and your family to every smile that is actually layered with deceit. Stop sharing information of your past to everyone that pretends to care about your history. Not every person around you is there to move you forward in your journey-some are there simply to place blockages on the pathway to your destiny. Wisdom whispers the truth before you speak and share with Bolanle how you are having troubles maritally. Wisdom reminds you she has been looking at your husband enviously. Or courage whispers silently as you decide to keep quiet once more when Tope starts laughing-she trades jokes lightly on the weight you have been trying to lose so desperately. Courage reminds you-you can speak-a friend does not make jest of one’s struggles so frequently.
You need to be careful who you allow into your circle of influence-as they have the power to change and enhance your reality. That of course depends on if they hold the best wishes in their hearts to see you bear fruits successfully. Or haven’t you noticed their secret looks of disappointment as you share another testimony? Or where you oblivious to their smiling eyes when you cried desperately?
Struggle is a revealer of men’s hearts intermittently-it shows you a glimpse of their true reflections when you first mutter your pain for their opinions. Watch their disposition. Was Tayo truly happy to hear you had given birth to twins or did she smirk in those first few seconds when you spilled over with joy happily? Or wait a second-when you where in that period of painful miscarriages-where sympathizers present to encourage your femininity-to pray with you and strengthen you emotionally? Or where they there to gather pockets of information to spread into society? Who was there when you were going through those periods of struggle before success became your reality?
Did friends pop up over night when you suddenly started living luxuriously? Well those are the people you need to watch carefully. Not all friendships and not all relationships are built on betrayal and lost promises. Some are built on the strength of true family-either by blood or by bond-doesn’t matter each way actually-all that matters is they were with you through thick and thin; they know you completely-those are the people that you should keep around you to protect your individuality-people that are no afraid to speak up and tell you when you are out of line because they love you and have your best interests at heart.
At the end of the day, one needs to be careful with who one allows into their hearts. Men are wicked and do not necessarily want you to succeed-they prefer to witness your destruction than celebrate your victory.
So choose wisely who you allow into your sanctuary-before they desecrate your home and turn it into a ghost town once filled with laughter now littered with betrayal and a burdened reality. Remember that those that wish you well externally may be the very ones who showed destruction the pathway to enter your reality.   

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Who has betrayed you on your journey? What did you learn from those experiences?


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GODLY RELATIONSHIPS: SAMSON AND DELILAH

Hey Guys! Welcome once again to my page! Today I will be teaching on Samson and Delilah as part of my Godly Relationships series and also this Sunday’s Word:

Judges 16:1-21 (NIV)
Samson and Delilah
16 One day Samson went to Gaza, where he saw a prostitute. He went in to spend the night with her. The people of Gaza were told, “Samson is here!” So they surrounded the place and lay in wait for him all night at the city gate. They made no move during the night, saying, “At dawn we’ll kill him.”
But Samson lay there only until the middle of the night. Then he got up and took hold of the doors of the city gate, together with the two posts, and tore them loose, bar and all. He lifted them to his shoulders and carried them to the top of the hill that faces Hebron.
Some time later, he fell in love with a woman in the Valley of Sorek whose name was Delilah. The rulers of the Philistines went to her and said, “See if you can lure him into showing you the secret of his great strength and how we can overpower him so we may tie him up and subdue him. Each one of us will give you eleven hundred shekels[a] of silver.”
So Delilah said to Samson, “Tell me the secret of your great strength and how you can be tied up and subdued.”
Samson answered her, “If anyone ties me with seven fresh bowstrings that have not been dried, I’ll become as weak as any other man.”
Then the rulers of the Philistines brought her seven fresh bowstrings that had not been dried, and she tied him with them. With men hidden in the room, she called to him, “Samson, the Philistines are upon you!” But he snapped the bowstrings as easily as a piece of string snaps when it comes close to a flame. So the secret of his strength was not discovered.
10 Then Delilah said to Samson, “You have made a fool of me; you lied to me. Come now, tell me how you can be tied.”
11 He said, “If anyone ties me securely with new ropes that have never been used, I’ll become as weak as any other man.”
12 So Delilah took new ropes and tied him with them. Then, with men hidden in the room, she called to him, “Samson, the Philistines are upon you!” But he snapped the ropes off his arms as if they were threads.
13 Delilah then said to Samson, “All this time you have been making a fool of me and lying to me. Tell me how you can be tied.”
He replied, “If you weave the seven braids of my head into the fabric on the loom and tighten it with the pin, I’ll become as weak as any other man.” So while he was sleeping, Delilah took the seven braids of his head, wove them into the fabric 14 and[b] tightened it with the pin.
Again she called to him, “Samson, the Philistines are upon you!” He awoke from his sleep and pulled up the pin and the loom, with the fabric.
15 Then she said to him, “How can you say, ‘I love you,’ when you won’t confide in me? This is the third time you have made a fool of me and haven’t told me the secret of your great strength.” 16 With such nagging she prodded him day after day until he was sick to death of it.
17 So he told her everything. “No razor has ever been used on my head,” he said, “because I have been a Nazirite dedicated to God from my mother’s womb. If my head were shaved, my strength would leave me, and I would become as weak as any other man.”
18 When Delilah saw that he had told her everything, she sent word to the rulers of the Philistines, “Come back once more; he has told me everything.” So the rulers of the Philistines returned with the silver in their hands. 19 After putting him to sleep on her lap, she called for someone to shave off the seven braids of his hair, and so began to subdue him.[c] And his strength left him.
20 Then she called, “Samson, the Philistines are upon you!”
He awoke from his sleep and thought, “I’ll go out as before and shake myself free.” But he did not know that the Lord had left him.
21 Then the Philistines seized him, gouged out his eyes and took him down to Gaza. Binding him with bronze shackles, they set him to grinding grain in the prison.


1.        POSITION: Firstly, it’s important to realize that Samson went to Gaza where he saw a prostitute. Hence pay attention to where you are going-that is where destiny or destruction will meet you. Samson met this prostitute in Gaza and he spent the night with her. Its interesting that he spent the night with her-this tells me that your relationships determine whether you stay in the darkness or in the light. Also, where you spend your time matters. Listen we are called to be the light of the world-not to add darkness to it. Samson entertained a physical relationship with a prostitute and it drew him into darkness. Who are you in relationship with? Where do you spend your time? Has it brought darkness into your life ie your decisions, your daily activities, your dreams? Then you need to re-evaluate your position.

2.        ACCESS: Notice also because of Samson’s position his enemies had access to him because he was in the darkness-as they said, “Samson is here!” His enemies surrounded him and waited for him all night at the gate. Once more the importance of the timing is drawn into focus-they waited all night-he was in the darkness-your relationships either draw enemies into your life or protect you from your enemies. As I said previously in my last post on this series, your relationships are either leaving you exposed or are protecting you-Samson’s relationship with the prostitute left him exposed. Samson escaped-his strength provided him a medium of escape. Your calling can only protect you for so long-you have to protect it-Samson’s purpose protected him-it provided an avenue for escape. Your purpose will always draw you to the light-but you can choose to remain in the darkness. Samson’s purpose provided escape but he chose to remain in the darkness.

3.        ATTRACTION: Where you spend your time will also determine who you find attractive. Samson spent a lot of his time it seems in physical things ie he spent the night with the prostitute. And so he was attracted to and fell in love with Delilah-once more this pattern of bad relationships with women. And people don’t realize-relationships are so powerful! You need to be careful who has access into your life-Samson gave Delilah access and by extension granted his enemies access as well. Its interesting that the Word says he fell in love with Delilah-have you fallen in love with a Delilah? it will be pretty obvious-do you cultivate your flesh or your spirit? Does he/she appeal to your flesh or your spirit?  He fell in love with her because he was all up in his flesh but she was no good for him-she did not have his best interest at heart. She betrayed him to his enemies. Have you given access to your enemies through your relationship with that person? since you were attracted to them in the flesh, don’t be surprised if they are led by the flesh and not the Spirit:

For instance:

a)        Delilah was greedy: She gave up Samson for silver. She was led by her flesh. She betrayed his trust for money-is that person ready to betray your trust for wealth? You will notice it in their actions-how do they act around money? How do they talk about money? Have they betrayed people for money before? Be careful with such people-they are very dangerous. Are they spirit led or flesh led? This too will be obvious through where they spend their time.

b)        Delilah was selfish: She asked Samson repeatedly the secret to his great strength and how he can be tied up and subdued. This is pretty obvious-I’m surprised that Samson did not understand the weight of her question-whoever loves you will not want to hurt you. Delilah was querying on how Samson could be hurt for her advantage. So has that person hurt you intentionally and repeatedly? Then it is pretty clear they do not have your best interest at heart-have they showed you they are selfish through their actions?

c)        Samson was blinded by lust: Samson heard Delilah’s question but he was not listening to the reason behind it-she asked for the secret to his strength because she wanted to know how he might be tied and subdued. Like the Word previously said, he was in love with her-don’t fall in love with the wrong person-they will provide an avenue for access to your enemies. Samson lusted after Delilah and so became spiritually deaf. Its interesting he lied to her as this shows resistance in the spirit-you cannot be touched except your spirit and your flesh come into agreement-Samson agreed with Delilah in his flesh but not in his spirit. But he was spiritually deaf because he could not see her betrayal through the presence of the Philistines. Why was he spiritually deaf?  Delilah announced their presence three times and he never once queried why they came after he provided her information. This is another sign-have you told that person a secret that has somehow leaked into the open? Then it’s clear they do not have your best interest at heart.

d)        Delilah was manipulative: She kept providing whatever Samson told her to the Philistines and then pretended to provide an avenue for escape by announcing their presence. Be wary of such people-they put you in trouble and then act like they are the source of your solutions!  This is what Delilah did to Samson-and God revealed all her traits to him through her actions-have you listened to what God has shown you about that person through their actions? When you are spiritually deaf-its only a short while away from spiritual blindness and Samson was reaching that point.

e)        Delilah was a chameleon: Somehow she was always the victim-she claimed Samson made a fool of her even though Samson was the victim here-has that person played the victim in your life when you have suffered as a result of their issues? Then they are a Delilah-and very manipulative. Samson once more provided her his “secret” for comfort, which she once again used against him-stop giving that person chances to betray you. They have not changed. Delilah once more betrayed Samson because that was her character and once more he suffered as a result of her betrayal. There is a pattern of betrayal here-has that person betrayed you more than once? Then stop giving them multiple chances to ruin your purpose. Notice this was an attack on Samson’s purpose and his strength-the more you spend time with that influence, the more exposed you leave your purpose-because although his enemies kept failing; they kept getting closer to the source of his strength because of Delilah. Which is why it is important to leave the relationships God has advised you to leave; protect your purpose.

f)         Samson did not protect his purpose: He told her the truth because she manipulated him with his nagging-and he told her everything. Don’t reveal your secret to everyone-don’t tell everyone your story-it is not everyone’s business to know. And be very careful who you allow to come into your heart-Samson resided in Delilah’s abode-he was always attacked under her supervision-so who in your life have you suffered repeated attacks as a result of their presence? This will help you locate the source of the issues you’re dealing with.

g)        Delilah betrayed Samson: The betrayal took place in secret first when she took the money, then Samson was given revelation of her intentions repeatedly before it fully manifested in the flesh. He was sleeping on her lap when his braids were cut off. The symbol of his strength was gone and he did not even know. The more you entertain that bad influence, the less sensitive you become to the presence of God and the less access you have to understanding your purpose. Samson did not know that the LORD had left him-and this passage always spoke to me. I wondered: how could he not know that the LORD had left him when he was dedicated to God? And the answer is, he was no longer in relationship with God-he had stepped out of the covenant by revealing the secret to Delilah.

h)        Spiritual and Physical Blindness: Its interesting that the enemy-the Philistines gouged out his eyes because it symbolizes blindness-which also means you become spiritually blind before you become physically blind. The LORD left Samson before the enemy was able to gouge out his eyes. Hence his spiritual sensitivity was taken before it happened in the physical-and this is what happens with relationships-they bring you back into bondage or they liberate you.

i)         Slavery and Freedom: Samson was bound in shackles and put in prison-this is symbolic of the fact that he was once more under bondage-ie under slavery to sin.  And that is what happens when you allow Delilah’s to have access into your life-it may start with that prostitute which is symbolic of that distraction-those friends, those vices but if it continues, it ends up in spiritual blindness and slavery. Notice Delilah was no more there once she had served her purpose-to bring destruction into his life-so stop deceiving yourself that whoever that person is, will be with you through thick and thin-they serve a purpose-and once they serve that purpose, and give the enemy access-they leave.

So are you entertaining a Delilah?




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HOW TO FOLLOW YOUR DREAMS

1.          Write It Down: Dreams don’t happen overnight. You need to agree with that vision by writing it down-make it plain as the Word says. (Habbakuk 2:2). When you make it plain through your words you breathe life into your dreams-you agree with your destiny. There is now unity because you have engaged your imagination with your reality. This also enables you to have a visual blueprint for what it is you actually want to do with your life. so many people are like the wind-they change their minds consistently. There’s nothing wrong with experimenting-but no one wants a half cooked meal-the same way no one will respond to an idea that only takes half the effort. This is why you need to write down your vision-to make it plain for yourself and for others. There is power in this agreement.

2.          Focus: Focus is so key when following your dreams-this means you need to be concentrated and determined. There is no room for distractions. For instance, you have some disposable income-instead of spending it on those cute pair of shoes or that new wristwatch; invest it in your dreams. Do you like to cook? Then use the money to invest in some quality utensils. Do you want to start a business? Invest it in a course or in building your business profile. This requires focus and consistency. You need to be disciplined. Dreams don’t come into reality through laziness-it requires dedication and a lot of hard work. So are you ready to put in the work?

3.          Consistency: Now you have written your dreams them and aligned your imagination with reality. You also need to focus on the vision through consistency. This means there may not be any return in your investments for the first couple of years-you may not see the profit you were anticipating immediately-but don’t be discouraged. There is no such thing as an overnight success-each and every successful person hit a couple of roadblocks on their path to living their destiny-and you are no different. You will face naysayers and disappointments may seem like a constant companion-but keep pushing through-this will build you to handle the level of success awaiting you.






Tip: You may be struggling with your dreams-you’re not entirely sure what it is you want to do or how you want to do it-that too is okay-then spend time writing down all your hobbies, your interests and then align them with your intuition.

In other words, what do you enjoy doing? Do you like writing/singing? Then delve deeper-for instance do you enjoy writing/reading fiction? Do you think you could do that on a day-to-day basis without stress? To find your dreams you need to look within. This process takes time but it is worth it!

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